A new book has put a spotlight on the “mommy-to-be” argument for marriage.
The author, Laura Loomis, told NPR’s Morning Edition that the idea of raising children in a home with their parents was often overlooked.
“It is the mother who is the primary caregiver,” she said.
“And for many families, that means they have a lot of children.
They are the primary caregivers.”
Loomins, who grew up in a family of four, has written two books on the topic.
The first, A Parent’s Guide to Marriage, was published in 2012 and focused on the impact of childrearing on marriages.
Loominis said her research focused on a sample of 1,500 couples in which the parents were married and the children were the primary caretakers.
She said she found that the children tended to “make decisions and take on responsibilities that their mothers did not.”
“It’s not surprising that if you think about how many people live in households where you have a primary caregaper and a lot and a couple of children and it’s like a family,” Loominis said.
She believes many couples do not recognize the importance of that relationship and “feel like they are not doing enough for the children.”
Loomingis said she believes that in order to have a healthy marriage, couples need to be open to being more involved in parenting. “
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Loomingis said she believes that in order to have a healthy marriage, couples need to be open to being more involved in parenting.
She argues that a strong partnership between a parent and child means that children are “at the core of the relationship and part of the bond between parents and children.”
“That would be great, but the idea that we have to give up our time together because it’s not going to be the same with our children is something that we don’t want to do. “
I think if parents want to work part-time or leave the house, that’s great,” she told NPR.
They don’t have the same relationship with their children. “
So when a parent leaves the home, they don’t get to be a child.
They don’t have the same relationship with their children.
So the idea is that if the kids want to be involved, they need to have the relationship with the parents that the parents have,” Lomingas said.
Lomingo said it is important to be able to share responsibilities and take charge in raising children.
“We don’t do that often in the family.
We get distracted a lot by work and family, so we don and then we forget that we can be parents too,” she added.
The second book, A Mother’s Guide for Parents, focuses on the importance and benefits of raising a child in a marriage.
Lominsons book explores the importance the children have in their families and the importance that a mother has.
“In my experience, it’s a lot easier to be an adult, take on responsibility and take care of children when you have the other parent in the house,” Lomis said.
In her book, Loominas research found that mothers tend to make more decisions about their children’s education, healthcare, and career, which makes them more likely to raise their children in that home.
“The idea that children have no role in the way you raise them is just wrong,” Lombas said of the idea parents don’t take responsibility for raising children, but instead “do the most they can with the things they have.”
Lombos says it’s important to understand that while some parents do not want to have children, she does not think it’s impossible for a couple to raise children.
She is not advocating for parents to adopt children, which is a topic that many couples advocate for.
“If it’s possible to do that, then that’s a huge difference between people who have children and people who don’t,” Lompis said of adopting.
Lombins’ book also discusses the importance in raising a healthy child to make it possible for them to thrive in the workforce.
“There is no better way to make a positive impact in the workplace than having a healthy and happy child,” Loma said.
